Light Beating’ Proposal Included in ‘Women’s Protection Bill’
Pakistan’s Council of Islamic Ideology branded a Punjab Government bill which outlawed violence against women as ‘un-islamic’ last week, instead publishing a draft alternative ‘Women’s Protection’ bill which clarified their interpretation of Sharia themed husband and wife relationships.
“A husband should be allowed to lightly beat his wife,” ,” the Council insisted, “if she defies his commands and refuses to dress up as per his desires (or) turns down demand of intercourse without any religious excuse.” (Pakistan Express-Tribune/ Independent )
BDSM expert Carlos Fishman, a consultant at The Portman Clinic, chatted about the psychology of sadomasochistic couples to the Observer in 2008 and said many beaters indulge ‘so as to manage feelings of intense anxiety.’
“They find it difficult to tolerate sadness, hurt, rejection, and other ordinary painful human feelings,” he explained, “and rid themselves of them by inflicting them, so to speak, on the body of the “other”.‘ (Observer )
In a more upbeat assessment in 2009, US researcher Brad Sagarin at Northern Illinois University in DeKalb measured stress levels of 12 S&M couples before and after BDSM sessions and concluded that bondage, flogging and spanking actually ‘brings couples together’.
British psychologist Richard Wiseman agreed though stressed the sharing aspect was the key element enhancing communication.
“It doesn’t have to be tying up your partner or placing clamps on their nipples,” he explained.
“It could be something as simple as cooking a meal together or even doing the housework as a duo.” (New Scientist )